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Welcome, Unschooling Rules. Our topic today, Unschooling Rules. I like this word, unschooling. In fact, I like it better than homeschooling. Because homeschooling, if you look at the two words, it sounds like you're doing schooling at home.

The reason I don't like that is because I think it's kind of crazy to just repeat the same exact system from the school system at home. Still better than school, but I quite like unschooling because unschooling, un means non or not, right?

Unschooling means not schooling, and I quite like it better. I also like the phrase home education, but home education, most people don't use that phrase. It's not common, but unschooling is common, so I quite like it.

Unschooling is the idea that, number one, of course, that you are teaching your own children at home, so it's home education. But also, unschooling has the idea that you are doing it in a way that is more flexible, more powerful, more creative, more human, more natural, than what schools do.

As I've said many times, one thing I love about homeschooling is that it's so flexible, so every family can decide their own method. Some families, some parents, for example, they're organized, they like to have a clear schedule, and they want everything very, very, very clear, and disciplined, and organized, and

They are going to want to use a very specific plan, program. They might buy or put their kids into some kind of program, maybe online or maybe something they order that's mailed to them.

But then some parents, like me, like my wife and I, are really relaxed, right? We like to have kind of a very flexible, very relaxed schedule during the day.

So we're going to take a much more flexible and relaxed strategy for homeschooling. And that's what unschooling is. So I quite like it. But mostly I like the attitude of it.

And I like the phrase. So as the virus stuff comes to an end, I do hope that a lot of people were exposed to learning at home. Let's call it that. A kind of homeschooling.

Now I know most parents were just following what the schools told them to do. A lot of the kids were just learning online with their same school teachers. So they're still using the same system.

But it's still better. At least they're at home with family, right? So it's still an improvement. But I hope more people will do that. And as they do it, I hope they will also, I hope you will also consider, at least consider other ways, other methods.

So this way that's very, very, very kind of strict and this method of education that that the schools use with all these very specific topics and subjects they're called.

It's one way to do it. I'm not going to say it's bad. I think if parents do it in a way where they really care, it doesn't necessarily mean it's bad. And there are some good systems out there that are like that.

But I think also it's not that it doesn't fit a lot of parents. It doesn't fit a lot of people. I think a lot of people who try homeschooling for example, during all this stuff recently, they get stressed out by that school approach.

I think a lot of parents got stressed by homeschooling with their kids during the virus because they were trying to follow the school method. And it is a very, you know, the school method is focused on control, control, control, you know, and it's like every 40 minutes, whatever, 45 minutes, something like that, you know, that you change to a different class, especially older kids.

And, you know, there are all these lectures and then there's textbooks and then there are worksheets and workbook exercises and there's all this busy work to do. And, you know,

the parents trying to push their kids to do this at home, I think a lot of parents got stressed by it because the kids don't like it. And at school, there's a lot of systems to control them and punish them. But maybe at home, the kids were thinking, oh, good, I can relax. I'm at home.

I don't have to do all this. And they maybe resisted that some. I know probably a lot of kids did. And then the parents are trying to force them to follow the school method.

and then the kids don't want to do it, and the parents get stressed out, and they think, oh, homeschooling's so hard. This is so terrible. No, no, no, no, it's not. It just means that that method, the school method, is not right for you.

And it, in fact, is terrible. I think it's terrible in general. So the good news is you don't have to do that. You don't have to follow that way. And I've already talked about unschooling before, but I'm going to discuss a book called Unschooling Rules by Clark Aldrich.

If you're watching on video, you can see it in the chat. Right at the top of the chat, I put the name of the book in the writer. So let's talk. One of the key questions people focus on, parents focus on,

about homeschooling is, you know, what should I teach them? What should I teach them? And they get all kind of freaked out. So this, I'm going to read one little page from this book that talks about what should your children learn?

What should you teach them or what should you help them learn? This is something else parents need to understand when you homeschool. You don't, don't, do not have to teach them everything directly.

You can just help them learn. It doesn't mean you personally teach everything. They can learn a lot of things by reading books, watching videos if you're just careful about what they watch, going to the library, maybe finding a coach or a tutor, maybe not, but most things can be learned independently.

And you don't have to be an expert. They can learn a lot of things without you, with you just kind of helping them find... the right books or videos or whatever. All right, but let's talk about what.

What should you, what should your kids, you, anybody, what should we learn? Share my screen if you're watching on video. This is page three. This is kind of a short little book.

The pages are very short. Okay, learn something because you need it or because you love it. That's an easy rule. So these are his kind of rules, really their suggestions for doing unschooling at home.

And that's a great way to put it. You know, what should you teach your kids? What do your children need to learn? Or what should they learn is a better question.

Well, they should, number one, learn what they need to learn. That's very simple. We'll talk about what that is, but it's just three topics, really. Maybe a few others, but

three central topics, really three central skills that they need in the modern world. And then, or they should learn something because they love it. Right? Because they're curious, because they're interested in it, because they want to learn it.

So this is it. Here we go. There are two reasons to learn something, either because you need it or because you love it. The content one needs to know is fairly focused.

In other words, it's just a few things. From the traditional curricula, one needs to know reading, writing, and arithmetic. That's it. Really, that's it.

He has a few other suggestions here, which I don't think are actually... There's only one, I think, is necessary. Okay. So, reading, writing, and arithmetic.

Reading, writing. Arithmetic is basic math. Basic math. Not advanced math, not calculus or anything. Basic math. The kind of math you need in business.

You know, kind of an average business. It's not very complicated. So, that's what they absolutely need to learn. You know, you could argue people do survive without these skills.

But in general, in the modern world, these three. reading, writing, and basic math. He adds a few others, which I'm going to ignore because I don't agree with him.

But he does mention one, security, and I agree with that. That's self-defense. You have to be able to defend yourself in this world. That might mean there's all different ways to do it, but kind of awareness of danger and being able to protect oneself, to protect yourself, to protect

Your children need to know how to protect themselves from being hurt by others, hurt by other kids from bullying or whatever, and also by adults. So I think that's also a very important skill. And that's all.

That's all. Everything else is optional. So everything else is just they should learn what they love. Or I think an easier way to say it is just learn what they're interested in.

They don't even have to love it. The truth is, you know, like I learn lots of things I don't love. But I learn them just because I'm curious, right? So I'll be curious about something and I'll start learning it.

And then I'll learn it for a while. As long as I'm curious about it, as long as I'm interested in it, as long as I'm enjoying it, I'll continue learning it. And then many times I'll...

I'll lose my interest. I'll decide, well, I know enough about this. I don't love it. It's interesting. I'm glad I learned something. And then I'll stop and I'll go learn something else.

And the things I love, those are the things I keep learning for many years. So I would also change that. Learn things they're interested in. But you can see now how simple it is.

If you break it down now, Reading, writing, arithmetic. Let's just focus on those, the self-defense stuff, whatever. You know, you could think about that yourself.

But in terms of academic skills, reading, writing, and arithmetic, you know, the kind of things that normally we think of in schooling or education. I mean, of course, there's social skills. There's all kinds of other things.

But we're just focusing on, you know, education, academic type topics. And for those, it's just three skills. just three. That's really simple. These are very easy to teach.

Reading is very, very, very easy to teach for most languages. Okay, maybe Chinese and Japanese is a little more difficult, but still. Writing is a very gradual thing. It doesn't require a huge amount of time.

It's And really, it grows out of reading. Most writing skill comes from reading a lot. So reading, again, reading is I'd put right at the center or maybe the top, number one.

And then basic math, of course, we all need to be able to figure out your bank account, operate a business if you want to, if they want to, when they get older, these kinds of things.

Eventually, if they want to go into more advanced math, because they're interested in engineering or something like that. Okay, they need just solid basic math skills. They need really good reading skills and good, decent writing skills.

It doesn't take a lot of time or effort to teach those three. It's actually very simple. When you think that with your child, you can actually start teaching these things around two years old,

maybe even one years old. You can start with very, very basic reading and very, very, very basic arithmetic math, just like counting and things, right? Let's say two years old. So from two years old to traditionally, we think, 18, right?

That's 16 years. You have 16 years to teach all of this. You can teach reading in a few months. Once they're ready, they can... learn reading very fast.

I'm talking about, you know, English or languages that have alphabets. Well, even in Japanese, they have an alphabet for younger kids. And that also can be taught very quickly.

And again, math is something you teach, you know, you're teaching a little bit each year. It builds. And with basic math, again, it doesn't take a lot of hours a day. It's not that hard to do.

So it's really, if you just think in your mind, okay, we just need these three things, and then everything else is optional. Everything else is optional, just depending on what they're interested in. And they will become interested in all kinds of things, tons of things. He lists some things, and he says, you know, what people love, or let's just say interested in, what kids are interested in is highly individual, individualistic.

It might be music. For some people, it might be cars and trucks. It might be clothes. It might be media and film. It might be growing food. It could be computer programming, literature, astronomy.

They probably go through a lot of these different things at different ages. So instead of forcing these things on them, you just let them learn them when they become interested in them.

And you don't force things that they're not interested in. If they're not interested in astronomy, for example, the stars and all that, there's no need to force it on them. It's not a necessary topic.

In fact, even in schools, they don't teach it to most elementary or middle or high school kids. So it's not necessary. There's no need to force a lot of different things. No need.

Let them follow their interests. Focus on the big three. Reading, writing, arithmetic. Reading, writing, basic math. Those three. That you only need maybe...

If you're focused, maybe an hour a day is enough for those three. I would say definitely two hours a day would be enough for these three. For elementary school age kids.

Now, if you do a good job, once you get your children to love reading, once they're good at reading and they enjoy it, they will naturally read more. They'll naturally read a lot on their own. You won't have to push them to do it.

The more you let them read things they enjoy and learn things they enjoy that they're curious about, they'll develop this very strong love of reading, a very strong love of

learning and exploring new topics so it won't require a lot of pressure from you they'll become you know you are creating independent learners that's what you want your children to be right you want them to be independent learners not not waiting for a teacher to tell them what to do not waiting for the media to tell them the truth or as we know lies

So that's it, guys. It's very, very, very, very simple. Very simple. It can be done in a very relaxed way. And let's say that two hours a day, it doesn't even have to be all at one time.

You could do 30 minutes when you wake up, 30 minutes before lunch, 30 minutes after lunch, 30 minutes in the afternoon. You could break it up in little short pieces. It just depends on your children and your... You, as the parent, your...

You know, your preference, what you want, what kind of schedule you like. Or you could just try to do it all, you know, two hours in the morning and then it's done. And the rest of the day is just for fun, interesting learning, just exploring anything that you're interested in, doing cool projects, all kinds of stuff like that.

That's it. All right, we'll go to questions and comments now. First, I've just got members. I'll turn on everybody, and then we'll go. Might be a little short tonight.

Vladislav, good to see you. Dennis, good to see you. Dennis says, I like this topic. It seems to me that I know why I hated school so much. Yeah, right.

Me too. Ilana Khan says hello. Kumipon says hello. And Vladislav, of course, says hello. Vladislav says, in Russian tests that are used at classes, we call them control works.

Right. School is all about control. Control, control, control. The whole system is mostly focused on control. You know, they're training you, right? So, the kids learn that, how do you get a good grade in school?

You listen to the teacher. write down what the teacher says in the textbook, memorize it, take a test, and repeat it on the test. What are they training them for? They're training them to do the same thing.

What happens when these people become adults? Well, then they listen to the media, they listen to the news, and they accept it as the truth, and they think they're smart because they can repeat what they read in a newspaper. See, look, I'm smart. I know what's happening because I

I can repeat what someone else wrote in a newspaper. Sad. Hey, Ruslan. Good to see you. Ilana Khan says, the foundation of unschooling rules are great for adults, too.

Oh, yeah, absolutely. For sure. All these things are also great for adults. Because this is the great thing, is that with unschooling, with homeschooled kids, what you find is that

Yeah, there's not this idea that, oh, school, education ends when I'm 18, or education ends when I'm 22. There's no graduation. It's just learning is part of life, and life is learning.

And so these kids grow up being independent learners. Just when they're interested in something, they try to learn about it, right, without someone forcing them. And so, of course, they keep this attitude their whole life. So even when they're 30, they have the same idea.

Well, I'm interested in computer programming. I guess I'll figure out how to do it. And then they just go buy books or watch videos or whatever they do, and they figure out how to do it, and they just learn how to do it. They don't need to go back to school and do it.

They just figure it out. They teach themselves mostly. And I'll continue Alana Khan's comments. Relaxed and exciting education will wake up curiosity and passion, which is hidden in every human being.

Yes, this is also a good way to wake it up in yourself. You've already had those big three, I assume. I'm guessing you can already read and write and do basic math. You don't have to worry about those anymore.

So now you can just learn what you're interested in. Vladislav says, at school you might not be ready to study. At school I didn't understand literature or history. Right.

I didn't understand text and couldn't retell. I remember a time when I had problems with my language. Yeah, this is another thing, exactly. That, you know, schools force all kids to be on the same timing.

But the truth is that kids and people in general... uh, you know, there'll be different, you're ready for, or you're interested in certain things at different times. One kid might be ready to read very early, and, and another child, maybe they need another year until they're really ready to do it.

Um, you know, one child might become interested in, uh, biology, natural, the natural world, very young, you know, age three, and another might not until age ten, right? Um,

And so there's no need to force it, aggressively forcing these things on them too early. You can wait. Literature, I mean, for sure, requires great literature. That is about, you know, very sort of deep topics of, you know, human life.

Generally requires some life experience to understand well. So for a 10-year-old, even for a 15-year-old, if they haven't had a lot of life experience or it's been very limited, which is fine, but they're probably not going to understand the old man in the sea by Hemingway and these ideas of aging and being, you know, mortality, right? That you're going to, knowing that you're going to die and the...

the struggles of life and how there's beauty in that. Those are hard things for some, for many, 15-year-olds to understand or 16-year-olds. Now, for some who maybe have had more life experience, more challenges in life, they might read that story and quite understand it and enjoy it. But a lot of kids will read it and it'll mean nothing to them.

And by forcing them to read it and then forcing them to memorize parts of it and then testing them and making them write papers about it, they will grow to hate it. And they'll say, ah, Hemingway is boring.

This story is terrible and literature sucks, right? And many of them never change that attitude, sadly. Even when they're 50 years old, they still have that attitude. They just have this bad emotional feeling about literature or about history or about school topics in general.

And then they avoid those things, which is very sad. Because those things can become very deep and meaningful at a different age or with different life experiences.

All right, let's get in and turn on the... Chat for everybody. Okay. Got a bug in here. A lot of stuff says it's sad that people give their kids to this system for 11 or 15 or more years.

When they graduated, they've completely forgotten what it means to be curious. Yes, I agree it's sad. Independent learning is true power, says Ruslan, because you can learn anything, anywhere, anytime, as much as you want. Right.

It's also the most natural. It's the way it used to be. This public school system, this factory school system, is actually quite recent. It's a very modern, recent system, right?

For most of human history, they did not have this kind of system. Homeschooling was the normal way that people learned. And there were other ways too, master and apprentice systems and things like that, depending on what people were learning.

Vladislav says, at 10th grade, we had to read War and Peace. Our teachers told us told that the novel is read by all students all over the world. Did you read it in the USA?

No, actually, I've never read that one. It's one of those obviously very super famous books. It's sort of in my mind. Maybe I'll read it someday. But no, I've never read War and Peace.

Of course, a lot of people do read it, but it is very famous. But it's impossible to read all these extremely famous books even literature, books, right? It's impossible for one human to read them all.

So you have to pick and choose. And it's best if the student kind of finds them, himself or herself. You can encourage... That's fine. How do you encourage?

I just read this book, War and Peace, or I have read War and Peace. It's such a great book. You ought to read it. I mean, that's what I do with our book club, right?

That's all I'm doing. No one has to do it. I just said, oh, The Hobbit. I love The Hobbit. It's one of my favorite books. Let's read it and talk about it.

And I'll try to convince you to try to read it. And then some of you do, and some of you don't. And that's fine. Right? But in school, what they do is they say, our next book is The Hobbit.

Everyone must read it. You have, you know, two weeks. Read it, and then I'm going to test you on it and make you write a lot of papers about it. And if you forget some detail from the book on the test, I'm going to give you an X, and you're going to get a bad grade.

I mean, that's just, that's like a perfect way to make people hate those books. Right? right you would hate that book if i did that to you if i had some power over you and i could make i could test you and and uh and anytime you made a mistake you forgot like who's the who's the leader of the dwarves and you forget x what's wrong with you you forgot thorin's name you know that's that's that that's what they do in school it's terrible terrible

It's not what normal people do, right? When you become an adult, what do people do? Maybe you have a friend and they say, oh man, this book is great, you should read it.

And maybe they tell you a little bit about it, right? That's basically it. They get you excited about it. That's the best way. Or you just maybe get lucky and you find a book somehow.

It sounds interesting to you. But you're not forced to read these things. when you're forced to do something it's just sort of natural that you're going to not enjoy it so much usually you know I think I've given the example that one of my favorite books is Walden by Thoreau as you all know this Thoreau but I had to read it in high school and I hated it I don't even think I read most of it I think I read little pieces just to pass the test and I didn't understand any of it at a deep level and I didn't care

But then, much later in life, of course, it became a very meaningful book to me. Nassar says, at school, everything is forced. Right? This is probably the number one problem is force, coercion.

That's the big, big problem, because it's all about control and force. That is really what school is teaching. Obey, obey, obey. Cool. Medgozi says, when I was 14, my dad forced me to get out of the school system.

He paid a teacher to come to our home. Now I'm 20 and I'm thankful. Yeah, good for your dad. Nice. That's cool. Vadim says, like George Carlin said, the true owners want us to be obedient workers.

Be stupid enough for accepting it and smart enough to do the jobs right. Smart enough... To be trained to do certain jobs, but not a deeper intelligence where you actually question things and think and figure things out yourself, right? Just listen to the news, the fake news, and just believe it.

I'm not quite sure I understand your comment, Komipo. Unschooling rules is very wonderful, but I think the qualities of the parents, there will be an academic gap.

I'm not sure. Maybe you're saying if the parents aren't really great at academics themselves, but that's the point. You don't have to be. Look, once your kid can read, they can read anything they want.

And as long as you give the right attitude and you're encouraging, you know, eventually... Eventually, if you do a good job, which means just have a good attitude about it, they probably will pass you.

There's a good chance, if you have a child who likes math, for example, there's a very good chance they will pass you if you don't like math. If you don't like math and you're not good at it, and then you have a child and they love it, yeah, they're going to pass you at some point. who knows, at some age, it might be early age, it might be age 13, and they're going to pass your ability to do math, especially if you don't use much math anymore in your life. They might start learning algebra, and they might move on to geometry, and they might do calculus, they might do computer programming, they might learn all of these things without you.

Once they get to that level, they become very independent. Once they start hitting that I'm talking about homeschooled kids. Once they hit those teenage years, really, they can become very, very independent and go way past you in certain areas because, you know, because it's an area maybe where you are weak or maybe it's an area where you just don't like it or you don't care.

But they, I mean, I'll give you a simple example. My little nine-year-old nephew passed education. He's way past me in terms of what you might call botany or studying insects and plants. He knows it's unbelievable.

He knows the names and all kinds of information about so many bugs and insects and plants. And I don't know very little about I just say, oh, that's a tree. Maybe it's an oak tree.

But I don't know the names of many of them. And he just knows the names of so many things. And not just the names, but he studies about them and all about them.

So he's way past me. I'm 52 years old and he's nine. I think he's way past his mom. Because he's so interested in it, all his mom did is just gives him books from the library on these topics, and he just reads them and reads them and reads them and studies them, and she'll let him watch YouTube videos, but only on these kind of topics.

She's careful about that. But because he's constantly learning about these things, he's way past all of us now. He doesn't need us. And that's nine years old.

So imagine a 15-year-old. So this is a common... fear, but it's an unnecessary fear that, oh, what if I can't teach them? You don't have to. They will teach the big three, reading, writing, basic math, and then they are able to learn anything else independently, especially as they get older.

So you don't have to worry. Let them pass you. It's kind of fun, I think. I think it's kind of cool that they pass you in some areas of life. Leonardo Parigi, good to see you again, never says, never stop learning.

It's a training for your mind. It increases physically the connections inside your brain. That's right. Yes, it does. How amazing is it to learn something you're interested in or you love it?

Yes, that's right. That's right. Akko says, I agree. In all my school years, I hated literature. After I graduated, I realized how exciting it can be.

I wrote many poems since then. Right. You know, I only just read the Iliad and the Odyssey translations, obviously, a few years ago, right? I don't know, somehow I avoided learning those in school.

A lot of kids learn them in school, but I'm glad I avoided them in school, the Iliad and the Odyssey, because now I... learning them, not learning them, just reading them, and I enjoyed them very much and saw all kinds of different levels of meaning in them that I know as a kid I would have not liked it.

I would not have understood. The schools in the USA pushed to read War and Peace. Just a lot of stuff following up. Some, maybe. There's so many different books.

They push books. That may be one of them. I'm guessing it's so long that maybe that's one they don't push too much. Yeah, like Hadi says, we don't need to be geniuses to be able to teach our children.

Most parents teach much better than the schools do. Yeah, this is the other point. The school teachers are not geniuses. You really think they're geniuses?

Have you forgotten already? You went to school, right? Like me. I remember my teachers. They were not geniuses. Not even close. So, right. Don't worry about that.

Okay, let me just jump down to the bottom here and go backwards. Vladis says, from yesterday's show, don't be afraid of anything you shouldn't be afraid of.

Apply this to homeschooling, to unschooling. Yes. Hamad says, in homeschooling, parents learn as well as their kids. Yeah, that's the cool thing. And that's why it brings you together.

It makes your family stronger. Because you're learning along with you. You naturally will learn things. Because your kids will get interested in something.

Right? Like, let's say my nephew. I've learned a few things about bugs already. I never would have known before. And I got actually, I started finding that this is kind of interesting, right?

I mean, I haven't, I'm not super into it, but when he got into cicadas and it was kind of cool, we would go outside and we'd watch him and he'd catch him all the time and we'd, watch them change, you know, like from these little bugs that crawl. They come out of the ground, they go up the trees, and they pop out, and then they fly. And it was kind of cool.

Seeing all that, I learned a lot of stuff about them. And yeah, they woke up my curiosity about insects and some of the natural world. It's very right. And by myself, maybe I'd never do that.

But because of him, he influenced me. So it allows... And I think that's very healthy that the kids... then they have something too. They feel that, ah, this learning is for everybody.

It's not something that people force me to do. It's not something that adults force me to do as a kid. No, no. I'm learning, and see, mom and dad also are still learning, and they actually are learning some stuff from me.

And it just brings that, it creates such a stronger and healthier connection with families, with children and parents. So much better than what happens in the school system.

much much better Yeah, I mean, it shows kind of the brainwashing here. I'm a part-time teacher. Some of my students always ask, how much more will we have to study?

How many grades are there? How much do we have to study for successful life? Yeah, you can see your students are brainwashed already. They're in the school system, and they've already learned to forget about learning.

They don't care. It's all just now grades and tests and graduating and money. It's kind of sad. I know, there are a lot of kids that become that way. They completely lose their natural interest in learning.

They become little robots. Sad. Sad, sad, sad. Ahmad says the best thing about homeschooling is planting morals and religious principles in the minds of children, which is absent from schools.

That is a very big thing. Values, morals, religious principles, social, good, good, kind things. and effective social skills, all of these things, the schools do not teach. In fact, they teach the opposite.

The schools teach immorality. They teach the opposite of morality. In the United States, they will teach about, you know, encourage your children about being gay, about, you know, trying to, interested in sex at very young ages. They're teaching the transgender craziness.

They're teaching all of this garbage now, this Marxist garbage. So, yeah, you're crazy. If you care about morals... You're crazy to send your kids to school.

But in homeschooling, of course, you can teach them that morality yourself. It's one of the biggest reasons to homeschool, in my opinion. Welcome, Parigi. Thanks for joining as a supporter.

Yeah, see, like Ty, Tony says, welcome from Vietnam. He's not working right now because of the virus. Spent a lot of time studying and improving my English and learning a lot from your YouTube. Thanks, AJ.

There you go. See, this is the kind of mindset. Imagine doing that just your whole life that your kids never, ever, ever have to deal with. being forced to sit in a class, sit on their butt for hours all day long, doing worksheets and textbooks and listening to a teacher talk forever.

Awesome. Imagine that. What a great... I'm jealous of my kids. Do I think it's a good idea if a child studies only at home? It's a great idea. It's a super idea.

What about social skills? What about them? You think that schools teach social skills? Are you crazy? Schools teach bullying. They don't teach social skills.

They'll learn social skills from their parents, from their brothers and sisters, and from their friends. They'll practice them with their friends. They're not going to learn social skills from their friends. They have to learn from adults.

Because if you don't teach them, they will just bully each other and hit each other. I see it already. My babies are one years old. One baby smacks the other baby in the face all the time.

I'm not trying to be mean, but that's just what they do. So, of course, we have to stop her and say, no, no, no, don't do that, right? It's the parents who teach good social skills, healthy social skills, how to be part of a group. And the most important group, society,

The foundation of all society is family. So teaching them how to be part of a family and have those great social skills within a family, that is the most important thing. It is the root of all social skills. It is the root of all society is the family.

So by taking them out of the family, sending them to a school, which is like a prison, which is just full of bullying and garbage, and it's just a bunch of other kids. They learn tons of bad habits. The teachers never teach social skills. They teach control and obedience.

So if you want your kids to have good social skills, homeschool. Homeschool. Homeschool. Yeah, Bilal's right. I know people who rush to send their children to kindergarten only because they want to go to some nine-to-five job.

Yes, this is the real reason most parents will do the schools. They see it as free daycare. They want to be away from their children, which I find is sad. I want to be with my children all the time.

I don't understand the idea of wanting to send your kids away and be away from them. If you feel that way, why do you have kids? Why have kids if you just want to be away from them all the time?

Makes no sense. Cool. Slavika says, Hi everyone, I'm late because of my work. These days I teach people how not to be afraid of viruses. And that's some extra homeschooling.

Nice, Slavika. Slavika is a doctor. Nice. Abraham Ali says, schools don't teach social skills, they teach nonsense. How can your child learn from other children at the same age?

Exactly. They teach prison social skills. You want your kid to be good at being in prison. Yeah, Jay says, AJ, due to the programming done by schools, uh,

I guess you're saying, I feel that English is, or I felt that English is boring, that creating a positive anchor with English is quite difficult. That's why people don't learn English. Yes, this is, absolutely this happens with English. I mean, I see this constantly, that people have a lot of negative thoughts, feelings, beliefs about English.

It all is connected to these bad feelings they got in school. They were forced to learn English when maybe they didn't care about it. Number one, bad.

Number two, they were taught with these terrible methods. They were stressed out. And they thought, I'm terrible at English. English is boring. All of these things.

Horrible. Yeah, that's a nice way to say it. Rustlin says, it builds kids' confidence when they know that their parents can learn something from them. Yeah, they feel like useful people.

Right? Kids need that. They realize they can contribute also. They are important also. Exactly. Okay, a couple more and then we're going to go. Let's see what the time is on this.

Yeah, 9.20. Okay, yeah, time to go. My wife needs to go to bed. Okay. Oh, thanks, Leonardo, for joining the support. That's really nice. Thank you. Nihad says, what are the green badges I see of some followers?

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You'll see on my channel, you'll see a little button that says Join YouTube. If you want to support the show, it's like $5 a month for the basic one. But it's not required. But I appreciate it.

Thank you. How about, Amina says, what about a tutor? What about bringing a tutor to your home? Yeah, that's something you can do. If you, I don't think you need to do it for everything.

But let's say there's some very specific topic that your child's interested in. Or if you really have no confidence helping them and they're having a hard time.

So maybe for some people that might be an advanced math skill. So let's say your kids, imagine they're a teenager and they're getting into calculus. Or advanced geometry, whatever. Just a little more advanced math.

And maybe you and your spouse, you're both, you hate math. And you haven't done it in 20 years. So you don't remember any of it. So you can't really help them.

And they have a lot of questions. And they're trying to first let them try to figure it out themselves. Because it's a good habit for them to figure. Try to do it independently first instead of just, please, somebody tell me.

That's such a passive mindset that schools teach. Please just tell me the answers. Let them try to struggle for a while. Struggle's fine. Let them try to struggle and they're not sure and it's confusing and they've got to try to really figure it out.

But if after a while they're trying and trying and they can't figure it out and they're really having a hard time, you might hire a tutor for a while for maybe, probably not full time, but maybe, you know, I don't know, for a few months or something.

Or even just, you know, you could probably do something online even where your child could just talk to them occasionally when your child has a question.

Like, I'm trying to learn this and I just can't quite figure it out. And then maybe someone who's really good at math or who's a good teacher might be able to help them out.

So yeah, you have that option. You have that choice. If you want to do that, you can. I would encourage you, like I said though, let them struggle a little bit.

Don't just automatically try to feed everything to them. Let them try to figure it out. Let them have problems. Let them struggle with something that's hard and they don't know and

many times they'll figure it out eventually themselves. It's a really good skill for them, a good mindset to have for life that, okay, maybe something's hard. Maybe I can't figure it out for a while, but if I keep trying, eventually I can figure it out. That's a good thing to learn in life.

So I would encourage that. How to find friends for our kids. How to just get out and live your life. I don't know. You know, your kids will get interested in things.

And they'll, you know, playground. I don't know. There's a playground right in front of our apartment. So your neighborhood, right? Are the kids running around?

Let them run around and play with the kids. They might get interested in different activities. All of these kind of things. It should just happen naturally, just like any normal person, right?

Bilal says, I have a tiny baby, four months old. Didn't vaccinate her. I'm planning to homeschool and teach her by myself. Nice. Good luck. Enjoy. So this is interesting.

Med Gozi says, uh, this is a follow-up. When I got out of school, and so Med Gozi is the one who had, uh, father pulled him or her out of school. Uh, When I got out of school, my health improved so much.

I don't know why, but I noticed it. Everyone told me so. It could be your mental health. It could be that you had much less stress. You became happier.

And that can affect your physical health. I don't know. Maybe other reasons, too. I'm not sure. But that's interesting. And he says, learning to read and write even my own native language was difficult for me.

I learn it still. I don't know what your age is. I don't agree it's simple to teach. It is very simple to teach. My teacher was professional. That's probably the problem.

This is the problem. You had a professional. That doesn't mean your teacher was good. Probably the opposite. They probably confused you and made it much too difficult.

It's very simple. Very. So, I can't even imagine what they would do to make it difficult, but I can't imagine, actually. Like, let's say phonics. There's a system called phonics, which is teaching the sounds of, let's say, in English.

of teaching the sounds of the letters. Okay, basic phonics is fine. No problem, right? B makes the B sound. B, B, B, B. Okay, right. D is D, D, D. So that really basic phonics is totally fine.

The problem is that there's a whole industry. There are companies and things that have created a very, very, very complicated system of phonics so that they don't only teach these very simple rules, you know, the sounds of the basic letters. Then they start teaching about all the different combinations of letters, like the word question, Q-U-E-S, quests.

And they'll try to teach some complicated rule about how do you figure out the sound of that. And so then it becomes very confusing. It's just like teaching grammar rules, right? It's just like teaching grammar rules.

Then the kid starts... Suddenly now they have all these rules in their head and they're trying to analyze while they're reading and trying to remember all of these rules. And it actually hurts their reading. It hurts it a lot.

After basic phonics, mostly what you're doing, reading is simple. It's just sight. It's called sight reading. So... Basically, your eye sees the word.

Let's say the word teacher. It sees the word teacher. You are not trying to go letter by letter. Teacher, right? No, you can't read like that. That's so slow.

Only in the very, very beginning, like a very small child. What you learn to do... is you just see the word as one whole. It's almost like reading a character in Japanese.

You just see the whole thing, and teacher. It's instant. Right? And you just... So this is called whole word. Whole word. And for, you know, after a very basic...

reading skills, it's a whole word. The kids are just learning. They see the whole word. They're not looking at each individual part. They're not looking at each letter and trying to figure out the sound of every letter.

If you try to do that, yeah, reading will feel difficult. You just need to learn to see it, and boom, it just pops into your head, and you go, it should not be hard. I don't know why in the world, Natalie, it's hard for you, but it should not be.

Your teachers sucked. Sorry. The only other thing I could think of is if you had some kind of dyslexia, where your eyes or your brain is switching the letters and making it hard.

So you might get tested for that, because that could cause problems. But if you don't have anything like that, it should not be hard. It should not be hard.

especially I can see from your writing, you're writing very well. I mean, I don't know what your native language is, but you're writing in English very well. You're writing in a foreign language. Your comment, learning how to read and write, even in my own language, was very difficult for me.

I mean, that's very good writing. I learn it still, so I don't agree. I mean, your writing in English is good, so I'm not sure. I don't know what your native language is, but it's easy.

You're going to have to do a little research, guys, but don't overcomplicate it. Don't think that because something's complicated that it's good. Schools do this constantly. They make things too complicated, which actually is worse.

You know this in English, right? This is the problem with learning grammar rules. because every year in English class they're teaching you the present perfect and the past perfect and the present perfect progressive and your brain becomes completely confused by all of this with all the rules for all the verb tenses and all these different grammar points and you become really confused and it hurts your speaking and it hurts your understanding so this can happen in reading it can happen in many subjects this is another problem with schools

You want to learn grammar, of course, but naturally it's much more simple the way we do it in Effortless English and that's why I don't teach grammar rules because it actually hurts your speaking and your understanding.

Okay, guys. Time for me to go. Lots of love to all of you as always. We will do The Hobbit eventually as soon as I get some time to read. But until then,

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