Why Getting Blindsided Doesn't Have to Ruin Your Day

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We're diving into something that is going to be spectacularly powerful for you. I have not talked about this for a couple of years now. Untertitelung des ZDF.

Es ist wirklich, wirklich hart zu glauben, dass ich das show 20 Jahre habe. Und an der Ende der Jahre, ich habe angefangen zu starten an January 1st. Ich denke, ich habe eine Episode an January 1st. In fact, ich weiß, ich habe.

Ich habe angefangen zu starten. Und ich habe angefangen, die ganze Zeit. Und es wird kind of weird, wenn es zu einem Ende der Ende der Jahre. Aber... Ich habe gesagt, das?

Ich habe gesagt, es kommt zu Ende der... No, wir kommen zu Ende der 20th Jahre. Ja. Well, maybe I meant that, or maybe I meant something else. I told you change is coming.

I met somebody last night who inspired me, and I went, oh, that's a clue. Remember, sometimes you've got to close the door first. And I closed the door. When I closed the door on the Daily Boost, I said, after 20 years, it's going to change.

That's all I did. I closed the door. There is no going back. It's not going to be what it is today in January. It'll be different. Ich weiß nicht, was es ist, aber ich verstehe.

Ich verstehe, dass du eine Entscheidung hast. Und die Entscheidung war, was zu close die Tür, so ich könnte einfach alle anderen Gedanken gehen. Denn nach 20 Jahren, ich bin kind of used zu tun, Dinge in einem bestimmten Weg. Und so, ich sage, wie kann ich das besser machen?

Wie kann ich mehr Spaß für dich? Wie kann ich mehr produktiv für dich? Wie kann ich den processen mehr machen? Wie kann ich mich mehr machen? Wie kann ich mehr Geld für mich nächstes Jahr?

All diese Dinge, richtig? Change is coming. Close the door first sometimes, guys. Don't hang on to everything forever because you'll never get what you want.

And what you want is going to be a lot better for everybody, I promise you. All right, so let's get in today to how do I feel strategy sessions. This is something that is very, very, very common for me to teach to my personal coaching clients. These are people who pay me a lot of money and I appreciate so much they do this.

And we have such a great time being able to help them run their business, grow their business, Stay married in many cases, stuff like that. And so those folks are the ones that are highly, highly invested. They invest time every single week in me.

I invest time in them. They invest money in me and I spend the money they get. Yeah, I do. Nonetheless, they are the ones who take these things that work and they take it very seriously and they do it.

Everybody else does not. Most people listening to this podcast today are going to blow this idea off like, oh, it's stupid, not going to do that. Fine. Go ahead.

Doesn't affect me at all. I'm just telling you, those in the know, they know. So how do I feel strategy system? What is it? Well, for many, many years, I asked the question on a Friday, how do I want to feel?

I did it a couple of weeks ago. It's a very powerful question. It gets right to you. And ultimately, it just acknowledges the fact that you're an emotional creature.

That's who you are. It's who you've always been. You're not going to change that. So we know that going in the door, so we're just going to accept it.

I'm logical, Scott. Yeah, yeah. Okay, wink, wink, got it. You may be more logical than most people. You may have suppressed your emotional feelings just to be logical.

People call you a hard ass. Did I say that out loud? Sometimes I don't know. Sometimes I just can't tell. Did I think it? Did I say it? Were the lips moving?

Possibly. Anyway, how do I feel strategy sessions basically come down to you being emotional. And we're just going to acknowledge it. Because most of the things that get you in trouble all day long are emotional.

You might have had somebody say to you, don't be so emotional. Happens, right? So I just accept it. I accept most of the things in life. See, I don't fight it.

I don't say, why does it have to be that way? I just say, well, it is. What are we going to do about it? Every single thing I do in my entire life is that.

You ever get to work with me? I'm going to say, well, it is what it is. What do we do about it? That's it. So I grant everything in that kind of reality.

How do I feel is just a reality. Okay, that's set up now. If I were to ask the question, how do I want to feel? That's very cool because now I can answer the question for myself.

Now, some of you are going to be like, I want to feel grumpy today. That's okay. That's who you want today. Some of you are like, I want to feel happy.

That's great. If you really want to make people around you happy, you can say, how do I want to make them feel? That's a super duper advanced version.

So a lot of people go into a meeting or go into an event or go into an interaction with other people thinking, how do I want to feel when I'm there? And, you know, I just want this to be a great evening or whatever. They go in that way. But if you want to be the advanced version, just think that way and then say, but how do I want them to feel too?

But here's what gets really fun. You're going to run into people and relationships and situations that you're going to crash and burn. It's not going to be good. You're going to be surprised.

So what you want to do is you want to take about once a month or even once a week or even today. You look at everything that is going to come your way today. So maybe you have three or four meetings. Maybe you have an interaction or two you're going to have at church or at gym.

If you were to just take a minute and say, okay, how do I want to feel when I'm there? And how do I want the people around me to feel? You're going to start to get some ideas. And you're going to be able to impact people in ways you can't even imagine because you pre-thought the emotion a little bit.

Lots of times I give this advice to people that are maybe talking to their boss or something. Und Sie haben eine Gespräche, Sie haben die Gespräche, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen, Sie haben die Worte zu sagen.

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Außerdem diese Woche extra günstig. Salates Schafskäse Natur. Je 180 Gramm Packung nur 1,99 Euro. Rewe. Dein Markt. I feel like it's a good meeting. I feel like maybe I contributed.

Maybe I really helped. Maybe I listened really well today. How do I want to make my boss feel? Like I'm on their side. Like I understand they're uncomfortable and I'm here.

I don't know what it is for you, but I'm saying if you do this in every single thing that you do, just take a moment just to consider it. Have them a couple meetings today. Just think it through. How do I want to feel?

How do I want them to feel? It'll change your life. Now, one thing you can do as well is when you have a situation like this, you can look at every single angle of it.

So, how do I feel if it goes well? How do I feel if it doesn't go well? How do I feel if it gets canceled? How do I feel if I get surprised? You can literally go through anything like that and just think through every possible angle.

Take 30 seconds to do it. So, look at a meeting you're going to have and just think of every possible angle. How is it going to go? What we do when we're thinking this way is we're able to create something that I have termed many, many years ago called the pre-planned response.

The PPR, as my guys call it. Free plan response is when I take a moment and think about the situations I may stumble into throughout the course of the day and look at it from an emotional standpoint about how I would feel about it and then look at it how other people may feel about it. I have a situational awareness that I would not normally have. And from that situational awareness, I will never be surprised again.

And I can do a response. I can harness a response. I can have something to say when the situation arrives. I've thought it through in advance. Now, you've done this before.

And maybe you've, you know, I'm going to go to a meeting. I've got my talking points. What if they say this? I'll say that. We're kind of bordering that.

But I'm kind of connecting the emotional side of this to it. And here's the biggest thing, if I can give you just a really neat way to do this and the reason to do this most of all. Usually what's going to happen is you get blindsided.

Something happens, you've thought it through. Yes, Scott, I did it. I worked it all through. I had all my pre-planned responses. I know how I'm going to feel the whole thing.

And man, I didn't see that coming. That happens. We can't think of everything, can we? But the beautiful thing about this is you can decide if that happens, if you get blindsided, you can say, well, if I get blindsided, how am I going to feel about it?

Well, surprised, panicky, relaxed, calm. You can make that decision. If you get blindsided, you can say, hmm, how do I want to make them feel about it? And you can just focus on that.

If you get blindsided, you literally can have a pre-planned response of, hmm, didn't see that coming. And you can chill. Now, why does it work? It works because you've already thought through the fact that you might be blindsided.

And when you get that way, it's no surprise. The triggers don't fire. The adrenaline doesn't surge. And you're like, I didn't see that coming. But then again, I kind of did.

So I know this is a little esoteric as we kind of go out here and think this way, but I've taught this for many, many years. I do it with myself all the time. I teach it to every client that I have. They use it all the time.

And what it does, it gives you some emotional control without being cold. It actually allows you to get in touch with your emotions and those of others, makes life a whole lot more fun when you are, and you don't have to kind of suppress them.

It gives you control over that. I hope you can use it. I'm sitting here thinking to myself, I'm not going to beg you. I really felt that for just a moment.

Should I beg them to use it? No, I hope you will because it actually will work. Welcome to the world, Scott. And where can I spend my time thinking? Surprisingly, in simple stuff like this, it actually works.

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