Tired of Waiting for What You Want

This is the Daily Boost Podcast with Scott Smith. What's happening? Come on in here, get in the studio. It's kind of messy, but I do have a little room for you.

I am going out of town, Death Valley, California. So I've got cameras, I've got microphones, I've got stuff all over the place here. My studio's a hot mess, just like I am half the time. But today, I'm going to squeeze between the cameras and the lights and everything else, and I'm going to do a show for you.

And hopefully today, you get the 50% of me that is not a hot mess. I feel pretty good about it. Yeah. I want to ask you a question as we get started today.

Are you tired of waiting? Are you tired of waiting for whatever you're waiting for? I've done this show a long time. I've been in this business alone.

This show will be 20 years old at the end of December. Whoa, 20 years. Some people, that's a whole career. It's like my third one. What will be my fourth?

That will be the question you'll be wondering here very soon. 20 years I've been doing this show, and the biggest complaint that I hear on a very regular basis is, I'm just waiting for life to show up, man.

People say that to me all the time. I'm working hard. I'm doing the thing. It's like I'm not quite there yet. I know, but it's true. I don't know if you feel that way or not.

I mean, there's probably some place in your life that you do. I know there is for me. Now, it's probably not my fault. I'm a guy that's wired just to always be growing and going for more, so I'm never going to be happy.

Well, I'm happy. I'm happily unhappy. You understand what I mean? As soon as I get what I want, I'm like, okay, let's move on. But a lot of you aren't doing that.

So are you lazy? If you're waiting around, are you lazy? No, you're not. Most people who are saying that, I'm tired of waiting, aren't lazy. But you are patient to a fault.

You are so patient that, man, it's just stalling you. Somewhere along the way, patience became a virtue for you. It needs its permission for you just to be patient and wait. And society does it to you.

There's no doubt about that. You do it yourself. And some things we have to be very patient for. You know, if you're investing, you got to be patient for the stock market to start going up again, please.

Have a relationship. You got to be patient to grow the relationship, right? So we got to be patient on some things, but not everything. But sometimes you just get in that group where we just have to be patient.

My wife is like that, by the way. Joy is very upbeat, very, very optimistic, very motivational. However, she will drive me crazy in one particular part of our lives.

And that's where I come up with an idea, something I want to do. And she goes, okay, we'll get to that first. Let's get through this, this, and this. Maybe next year.

I'm like, what? I don't even understand it. Scott gets idea. Scott's do idea. Hmm. Caveman right there. Scott get idea. Scott do idea. By the way, the business I'm in is called personal growth.

Although that's really just a small section of it. But did you know in this world, everywhere except here, there is no incentive to get you anywhere fast.

In fact, most people say, be patient, work on yourself, come up with the answer, become the person you're meant to be. They all say that stuff. Why do they not want you to get anywhere fast? Because if you get there fast, you don't need them anymore.

If you arrive, subscriptions end. I'm not that guy. I actually want you to arrive. I do. Because to me, it's a challenge. If you arrive or I help you get someplace that you say you want to go, then it's up to me to say, okay, what's the next step?

Let's go. Which is easy for me because I'm wired that way, right? But most people aren't. There's no incentive to get you there. So there's a question that kind of changes everything.

If you've been waiting around, what if you could make up for 10 years in one? It's not hustle harder, by the way. This is not a 10x life. We don't talk 10x life around here.

It's kind of backwards, kind of the other way of thinking. We're just making it up for 10 years in one. We're just arriving sooner. It's already possible.

You've seen it before. Maybe it's happened in your life. You've had a diagnosis or maybe a friend, a family member has had a diagnosis. And you notice that if it's a bad diagnosis or a good one, everything changes instantly.

Maybe you had a layoff, hated your job, but suddenly you got laid off, did you a favor, right? Didn't feel like that, but still, everything changed instantly. How about a divorce?

You could put up with a divorce, a bad marriage for a decade, and suddenly it's over. People can press a decade into change, of change into months all the time, but they usually just wait for a crisis to give them permission to succeed. That's why in politics, you hear them often say, never let a good crisis go to waste. That's actually a Marxist policy.

Because we know this, when people get in crisis, you can do just about anything. Why? Because when you're in crisis, what do you want? All you want to do is solve the crisis.

Get out of it now. That's why you could be coasting along your life, being patient with everything else. And until something bad happens, a diagnosis, a layoff, a divorce, something like that, you don't have any reason to change.

You just keep kind of marching along. And it doesn't matter how old you are because if you're older, hey, the clock is ticking. I'm going to die sometime in the next 10, 20, 30, 40 years. It doesn't matter.

You can say that for five years straight. The clock's still ticking. There's still another five years to go as much as you know right now. I'll get there eventually.

But eventually, you'll run out of time. That's why crisis gets you into permission mode. A lot of people in my business use that to their advantage. That's when you have an acute crisis.

I can solve your problem. It's okay. It's fine to do that. It's like to me in Florida. I live in Florida. If it's August, and it is, and my air conditioner goes out, I don't care what you say you do.

All I care is, can you get here now? That's it. Get here now. Problem solved. That's why people can make a change very quickly after a decade of just kind of hanging out, hoping for the change.

Ten years in one. Is it possible? Really what it is, it's ten times in your life in reverse. It's the same math. It's an opposite direction. You don't add ten times more and you stop waiting ten times longer.

That's interesting, huh? Remember being a kid? Kids don't wait, do they? Kids are impatient. They come up with an idea, the thing they want, and that's it.

They go to get the thing or they bug you to get the thing. And that's all they have on their mind forever until they get the thing. You can't tell them no. You can't tell them to shut up and go to the room.

Can't put them in timeout. Can't do it. Can't take their game thing away. Game thing. There's so many game things now. Nothing stops them. As an adult, you've learned that patience thing we talked about.

You learn to move slow. You've been taught to move slow. And again, sometimes it has. This is a confusing thing about life in general. I think the older you get, the more you realize that.

Sometimes it's good to move slow. Sometimes it's good to move fast. Sometimes it's good to have your body moving fast and your mind moving slow. All that stuff.

It's just kind of confusing. If you're a little bit younger trying to figure that stuff out, just wait. You'll figure it out in 20 years when you get a little bit older. But as a rule, for the most part, you're waiting around for something to happen because you've got to be patient.

You've been taught to be patient. But also sometimes, and this is where it really gets confusing, sometimes it takes time to learn. It takes time to get the skill set. It takes time to gather the wisdom to get what you want.

You want to go faster, you do, but you're stuck waiting. So what happens if you spend a lifetime just having to kind of learn and find your way around? Are you being trained to be patient?

My dog barking in the background. Yeah, you've learned to be patient. That's all. So here's what I want to do today. As I get out of here today, and I want you to consider the concept that if you're tired of waiting, that you can compress 10 years into one.

Can you do everything? No, most people that complain and they will complain to me, they'll say, Scott, I can't change my entire life in one year. I said, never said that. But you change one thing.

And I think if you choose that one thing correctly, it'll change everything. It's a cascading effect. So here's the challenge for you. Pick one thing that would, if you did, it could take you 10 years just to get to.

Maybe it's a job. It's a career change. It's going back to school. Maybe it's a divorce. Maybe it's a marriage. I don't know. Take that one thing and decide to change it.

today, right now. And if I were you, I'd pick the one thing that if you did, it would cascade across every single part of your life and change everything. It would be the one thing that would have the biggest, most positive impact on your life. What's it going to be?

Here's a little super duper trick that I'll toss in here for you. You're going to have to give up something to make that one thing work. I think we'll talk about that this week. I think we will.

You know what? I think we will. Okay, let's go. I'll be back tomorrow. The noise is the problem in your life.