How to Be Heard in a World That Stopped Listening

How are you? Happy Wednesday. Come on in here, man. Boy, it's a noisy world, isn't it? What if we could quiet our world down a little bit? I mean, not digging a hole and putting our head in the sand, but actually just have more control.

I'm going to dig in a little bit today. Yeah, I'm not being political, but at the same time, I'm kind of looking at the world and look at the buzz and look at the noise and look at some of the anger. And, you know, we just got to kind of deal with it. So let's deal with it in a positive way.

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I want to help you grow your life, grow your business, be happy, all the stuff you want to do. It's fun. It's fun. My name is Scott Smith. Good to have you.

Hey, Scott Smith on Instagram. You can send me a note over there. I was talking to my wife last night. I just had some great experiences this week. And I said, you know, it's really fun to lean into people who lean into me, people who trust me.

And just most of the clients that I work with, what they really want to do is they want to dig into what I study. I have a client in South Africa. He says he's in my inner circle. He says, I pay you to be in there to study and master the things that I don't have time to do.

And that's what I do. I spend a lot of time studying and learning. But the biggest benefit is I talk to so many people all over the world in just very frank conversations. Because if you get with me, I'm not your typical coach.

Not at all. You're going to have this kind of conversation with me as a coach. I'm not going to say, so how do you feel? What do you think about that?

I'm not going to do that stuff. Listen, I have no patience for that. None. Life coaches, you bore me. I will be a coach. I will help you. But I'm going to be more like a baseball coach.

I am. Swing harder. And when you have that relationship with people and it's light and it's spirited and yet it's serious and people respect each other, man, you get some good, you get some great results. It's so cool.

Let's talk about this today, okay? How to quiet the world around you. So whether it's getting a job these days or running a business, I think we all have a problem.

I've seen it again and again and again. It's just noisy. It's just so noisy. And I think people, the people that you're trying to connect with to get a job or to get a relationship with or to build a business with, they're just putting up so many walls and they're doing it to protect their sanity.

It used to be, remember we had ad blockers on everything? I don't have ad blockers on anything right now. You know why? Because if you run an ad, I don't even see it.

I just go right past it. If you yell too loud at me, I just go right past it. I don't even worry about it anymore. And I think you're doing the same thing.

So this increasingly noisy world has caused a lot of people to put their walls up. And the more they do, the louder people have been screaming. And the louder people scream, the more we ignore it.

So I really thought this through over time because I pay attention to this kind of thing. I've been in communication ever since I was 16 years old. So I really watch it. I've seen the changes over the years.

And I got to say this. There's just no villain. There's just not. And there's no puppet master causing this. It's not the tech guys. It's not the billionaires.

None of that stuff. There's no villain here. Well, okay. Let me be honest. It's probably some of that stuff. Okay. Let's just see for what it is. But ultimately, it's just millions or billions of people trying to do what it takes to live their lives.

And in doing that, it escalates. So here's the truth. People are still people no matter how much noise there is right now. I know sometimes it's hard to believe, right?

Have you seen those people? Look around. Everybody's pretty much the same way they were last week, last year, last decade. And this time of year, the holiday season is coming up.

And, you know, look, I mean, Hallmark movies are real, right? They are. Life is just like a Hallmark movie. Cameron, that's exactly how life is. And it is in a lot of ways.

Not much has changed. We're fundamentally the same people we've been forever. We have a lot of change going on in our world right now. It's going faster than our brains can even comprehend, which is why we're shutting things down.

Everybody needs help, though. Everybody wants to help people. Everybody wants a happy life. We all have that in common, right? But it's funny, with all that noise...

All you have to do is, frankly, just turn everything off, turn on some music, take a walk in the woods, and you'll quickly realize that nothing, as I said, has changed.

It's amazing how fast that happens when you just plug in a little bit. Now, some people may study this as a book about sublime these days, and it's kind of cool. You're standing there and suddenly you notice a flower and you're like, man, look at that damn thing. But unless you give yourself time to do it, you're not going to notice that.

And that's what's happening right now. We're moving so quickly and it's coming so fast. The cadence that we live by these days is very tough. So what's the fix?

Well, there's a million ways to go about this. There's no doubt about it. And I certainly cannot do this. You and I could have a conversation that would go three hours.

I've had coaching groups that have had conversations that go 90 minutes at least. And we have to cut them off because we start getting into the nuance of this and it gets a little crazy. But you have to remember something.

Everybody's just trying to live their lives. Add a little pressure, add a little stress, add a bunch of loudmouth politicians, and it gets kind of difficult to do it, doesn't it? You get very defensive about things.

I don't want to say people are just self-centered. I don't want to say people are narcissistic and just thinking about themselves. But at the core, that's exactly what you and I and everybody is doing.

That's what makes us human, and we're all the same. Again, you've got to hear that. Don't get mad at me when I said that. You have to breathe, right? If you don't get to breathe, you're going to punch somebody so you can breathe.

You can't do that to me, right? You got to breathe. You got to eat. You got to take care of yourself. So fundamentally, at its core, we're self-centered just because we have to stay alive.

So this fight or flight stuff and everything is built into us. It's all there. And this is what happens. It's so intrusive these days that we're just kind of fighting it back.

And so, again, there's no villain here. A couple of issues that I think are in play here. Trust is a big issue these days. Obviously, Scott, did you see what happened last week?

It's not that people don't trust you. It's just they don't know you. They don't know if they can trust you. They don't know if you're a threat or not.

You do the same thing, by the way. So you want to be trustworthy. You want to build your personal life and your business lives around others that do the same.

Just remember, because of all the noise, it's really hard to build trust. But that's so important these days. A good person is going to do that. And by the way, there are people in the world you shouldn't trust, but you're finding that people are kind of, as they closed off their world, they saddle themselves off a little bit.

They're looking for people they can trust. I'll never lie to you. If I lie to you, it's just because I made a mistake. I didn't lie to you. I like to build trust.

I like to say, Scott can be a hot mess some days. There it is. At least he admits it, right? You can trust me, though. I got your back. But trust is an issue these days.

So if you're looking for a job, understand that, yeah, the AI is in the way. You're getting screened. All that stuff is going on. But all the people on the other side are just trying to defend their position, their power, their job.

They're trying to do the right thing for their company and for themselves. And at the same time, they don't know you, so they don't trust you. The very minute that you found a way to let them see that they can trust you is when they open the door. And that works with just about anything.

The other thing that's really interesting is, you know, creativity is one of these things. I really was working this through and just studying and thinking.

And the more I look, I'm a creative guy, right? And initially I was getting a little bit upset. Yeah, I get upset because I saw creativity being taken away. I saw the very thing that people do so, so well.

being taken away by AI. I saw that happening. I thought, man, this is crazy. But then I looked at the bigger picture. I looked at like Facebook ads and Google ads and things like that.

And I recognized something. I recognized that creativity is something that people really are just craving right now. They're craving not only to be creative, but people are craving you to be a creative person.

All this noise is out there that people ignore all the time. Creativity is what opens the door. In fact, if you do any business online, if you buy any ads on Meta, if you've done this at all, Anybody will tell you the way to do it is to be creative and not with AI.

People don't like AI creativity. They don't. I tell you, we see bad numbers in that all the time. It looks cool. You think it's going to work, but people just smell it.

Nope. I don't like that. It's not real. But if you're a real actual person, if you sit down and let's keep it in the ad territory, if you get sound and you're going to do ads on, on meta Facebook and you decide that, Oh my God, they say I have to have 20 creative ads.

Everything has to be completely different. Isn't that weird? It's really, it's so old school. Think about it for a second. In all the noises out there, the thing that's cutting through is individual creativity and the individual message of creativity.

So if you guys want to be creative, sit down and be creative because people are looking for that. And in that creativity, they find the trust. I have little by little moved away from the algorithm on this show, little by little. And some people don't like it.

Some people love it. The fact that I've simply said, nope, listen, I got to break the walls down. I got to be real. I can be extremely creative. I'm a little funny.

I'm going to get down and dirty. I'm going to make it down and dirty on the daily boost, baby. We'll have to name it something else if I do that. But anyway, I've just noticed that.

So in your life today, with all the noises going on, just remember, it's just everybody's in the same place. They all have the walls up. Trust is really an issue these days. The attention is just gone.

Everything's down to nine seconds now. Very hard to break through. But you need to. And finally, I want you to give yourself some space. Slow your inner cadence.

The noise around you is making time go too fast. You're not built for this. You're not built to have a stun gun stapled to your chest every day of your life. And that's what's happening right now.

So I'm not going to say unplug, but I'm going to say unplug. Unplug. A little bit. Pull back a little bit and just understand you got to slow the roll.

If you're scrolling and scrolling and scrolling and scrolling, you are living 10 lifetimes in about 10 minutes. If you go back in time, 100 years, horse and buggy days, right?

And think about the amount of information you scroll through in 10 minutes time. Your brain doesn't know how to handle that. All right. There's just so much science in this.

So much science. Get up in the morning. Don't look at your phone for the first 30 minutes. Put it on the table at 7 o'clock at night and don't take the phone into your bedroom.

You do that, you're a happier person tomorrow morning. Guaranteed. So the noise is going to be here because the more noise there is, the more people are going to scream because it's just a whole bunch of individual people saying, well, look at me.

I need to sell something too. I need to be happy too. I need to have my voice heard. It's just billions of people doing the very same thing. It's not going to stop.

You don't want it to stop because that's censorship. We don't want that. So you have to censor it yourself. Step back, guys. Step back.